If you love yourself, you love everybody else as you do yourself. As long as you love another person less than you do yourself, you will not really succeed in loving yourself, but if you love all alike, including yourself, you will love them as one person and that person is both God and man. Thus, he is a great and righteous person who, loving himself, loves all others equally.
Becoming a lover / Heart
Theoretical / Practice
There must be nothing more important than the art
Engineer – problem solving, steps, procedures
Athlete – physical gains, routines, get out what put in
Fear of love – open ended, risk, challenge, put in more that get out
Fear of relationship – no pattern, guide, schedule
Heart – kind, caring, compassionate,
Not emotional – able to withstand conflict
Already have – put others before self, love helping others, does what others say
Travel – romance, pictures, honeymoon
Love – which “only” profits the soul
Human separateness – prison of aloneness, shame, guilt, anxiety, withdrawal from the world around
Needs of man
The total personality – mind & body
Herd: I am saved from frightening experience of aloneness
Conformity, masochism, insecurity
Forms of love: care, responsibility, respect, knowledge
One loves that which one labors
I want the loved person to grow and unfold for his own sake, and in his own way, and not for the purpose of serving me
Milk is the symbol of the first aspect of love, that of care and affirmation
Honey symbolizes the sweetness of life, the love for it and the happiness in being alive
Mothers love for life is as infectious as her anxiety is.
We have lost the reality of life, love & happiness, fulfillment
Uncanned heart - Spent whole life filtered, babied, sheltered, spoiled
Riddled by impersonality
Make me think in front of you, challenge me, dig deeper
Believe in fate, things happen for a reason, things occur in sequence
I haven’t had good experiences with friends
I feel like I have always been scrutinized by my approach to life & interests
Discipline, concentration, focus
To be concentrated means to live fully in the present
Patience – fall, fall again, fall again
See things objectively, as they are
Humility – use ones reason
Whoever shuts himself off in a system of defense, where distance and possession are his means f security, makes himself a prisoner.
To be loved, and to love, need courage. The courage to judge certain values as of ultimate concern – and to take the jump and stake everything on these values.
For I shall become incapable of relating myself actively to the loved person if I am lazy, if I am not in a constant state of awareness, alertness, activity.
Not being bored or boring is one of the main conditions for loving.
To be active in thought, feeling, with one’s eyes and ears, throughout the day, to avoid inner laziness, be it in the form of being receptive, hoarding, or plain wasting one’s time, is an indispensable condition for the practice of the art of loving.\
Be the change you want to see in the world
Act on Intuition, instinct
Don’t think too much – I should have
You regret the things you didn’t do more than the things you did do
Be assertive, passionate, self-esteem
Get what you want
Awareness – calm, breath, enjoy
Don’t avoid situations of conflict – don’t take the easy route.